The Real Stuff

The real-life stuff: most of the real sex blogging done here, but also thoughts, updates, identity, kink and polyamory. My autism is often mirrored in this writing.

A hand drawn hour-glass. There is sand falling through to gather at the bottom. In the top part, there is a line drawing of a torso of a woman. She is naked and her hands are above her head. She is being sucked through the hour-glass.

Perimenopause hit me like a brick

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This is the most personal blog I’ve made so far. It makes me feel raw and vulnerable to be sharing this, and I wondered if I would be brave enough to do it. But now it’s written and even recorded, I’m actually feeling quite proud of myself and I do feel brave sharing it.

Perimenopause is like one of those elephants in the room. But it needs to be talked about! Half of us are going to go through it, and without fore-knowledge it’s a really scary thing. Trust me 😉

It’s heavy at the start, but please don’t get disheartened. It ends with hope.

<3

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This is a line drawing of a man’s midriff. You see the point from just above his belly button down to just above mid-thigh. He is wearing jeans, they are open, at the waist and you can see the top of his briefs where the zip is undone. His belt is open and hanging down either side of the opening. He is topless, you can see his belly button and there is a hint of muscle at the sides of him drawing into his loins. There is a hint of a line of hair down below his belly button and another leading up towards his chest. If you have a particularly good imagination, you can imagine the shading in the jeans to the left-side of the zip indicates his excitement. There’s something so sexy about belts and jeans!

You May Fuck Him: You Give us Permission to Fuck

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I’m so excited to share this with you; I’ve added audio to this post, originally published on the 20th of June 2024! It’s the recounting of the time my man gave our buddy and me permission to fuck, before he went to work. A reminder: the last time he visited, my man gave our friend with benefits and me explicit permission to fuck each other while he was at work. By letting us each know separately on the morning of his arrival, my man created intense sexual tension between us – and a very deliberate foregone conclusion.

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