The Real Stuff

Going Down with Sundial: The Real Stuff

This is the official home of my thoughts, updates, and blogs. Here you’ll find the core of my writing, from personal milestones to my latest explorations of sex, identity, and the world around me. Polyamory, kink and connection through an autistic lens.

Barreling into 2025 with a Celebration of Diversity; and the truth of my present mental health

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Last year on New Year’s Eve, I released a blog post I had written for a friend and his wife. They were going through monumental changes in their relationship, due to her realisation of her suppressed sexual identity. Since I wrote it, I have been wanting to explain what the post means, and now one year on seems like the right time!

I’m going through a difficult patch at the moment, I may be made redundant soon and the insecurity is destroying my equilibrium. I’ll be taking a break from Sundial, until I am in a more stable place.

But hey, it’s a new year. Happy 2025 people, may it bring you health, happiness and may all your kinkiest desires be realised!

Much love, Sundial

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A hand drawn hour-glass. There is sand falling through to gather at the bottom. In the top part, there is a line drawing of a torso of a woman. She is naked and her hands are above her head. She is being sucked through the hour-glass.

Perimenopause hit me like a brick

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This is the most personal blog I’ve made so far. It makes me feel raw and vulnerable to be sharing this, and I wondered if I would be brave enough to do it. But now it’s written and even recorded, I’m actually feeling quite proud of myself and I do feel brave sharing it.

Perimenopause is like one of those elephants in the room. But it needs to be talked about! Half of us are going to go through it, and without fore-knowledge it’s a really scary thing. Trust me 😉

It’s heavy at the start, but please don’t get disheartened. It ends with hope.

<3

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