A Sparkling Diamond on a Cold and Frosty Morning – Our First Date with Him

It was cold that day, barely above freezing, and the snow still lay heavy on the ground. There were weather warnings in place about the ice. I remember this because he had a way to drive and I was concerned about him. I think this probably added to the nervous energy I’d immersed myself in.

It was mid-morning and we’d invited him to spend the day with us. We were sitting on the sofa, sipping coffee. Me puzzling – I was too excited to do anything else – and you playing a game on the console.

Being our first official date together with this new guy we’d been talking to online, sex was not on the cards. At least it wasn’t in our minds in that snapshot in time on that particular Sunday morning. But that afternoon, we broke a lot of the “we won’t do this until we’ve met at least a few times” guidelines we’d talked through together with him on a video call before we met.

We live on a quiet cul-de-sac in a busy town, so there wasn’t much traffic, and every car that drove up the hill was giving me palpitations – I was that nervous. After the fourth time this happened, you put a hand on my knee and I looked at you.

“Nothing’s set in stone,” you said, “take a breath.”

He Arrives

A few seconds later, the doorbell chimed, catapulting me into a catechism of collywobbles. No, really – I jumped so badly, that you reached out a hand and placed it on my shoulder.

“Deep breath,” you said, smiling at me, and you went to let him in.

We’d exchanged some pictures by this point and we’d had that call I mentioned just last night. We all kinda knew what we were expecting. So the first thing that struck me wasn’t how he looked, but rather his demeanour.

There was an air of reserved politeness about him, and as he slipped his coat down his arms, he flicked his eyes to my man, to me, greeting us both by name with a smile. He filled me with an old-fashioned, true gentleman vibe.

They did this distant, manly hug thing with some arm clapping. And then he took my right hand in both of his and he angled his face down, looked into my eyes with a smile and told me it was nice to meet me. I found I had no response, but he didn’t seem to mind.

While he took his shoes off, you turned to me again, and mouthed one word, with pure mischief in your eyes.

“Breathe.”

And the suppression of a manic giggle actually broke my tension.

Mutual Respect

We had a lovely morning together and it was a LOT more relaxed than I’d expected it to be. You know how it is when you just click with people, and there is this feeling of pure honesty, no hidden agenda whatsoever. It was like that – just relaxed joy.

After lunch, we continued the inevitable conversation that we’d been bandying around between us since we first read each other’s profiles: What our expectations really are, not from each other, but rather from what we’re looking for in others. It was already clear we were well aligned. But just how well was becoming more apparent as the day went on, and I think we were all feeling the underlying tension beginning to build between us.

The first big thing to explore was whether a long-term threesome arrangement was realistic for us all. This included the most important factors; the mutual respect question, and attraction question. The mutual respect was a very obvious thing, and this is the most important consideration of all. You need to feel completely at ease with our third, and for that, the respect must be absolute between the three of us, otherwise it will not work.

“Can we do this; is there attraction?” you asked. And by broaching that question, you confirmed your feelings on the mutual respect matter.

And Attraction

Attraction is so unique and individual. Until you posed the question, I don’t think any of us had really allowed ourselves to dare explore that angle properly, we were moving into new territory just by facing it.

I looked across the table at him. And he held your eyes for a long moment, before he looked over at me.

The moment of mutual regard didn’t last long, just a second. But it was loaded, crackling with pent up power, like water under pressure ready to burst free.

I properly looked at him, noticed him, took him in, in that tiny amount of time. And the possibility of being with him in that way was like the sparkle of a diamond shining in the sand. It sounds so cheesy, so I’ll make it cheesier. Our brown eyes locked and his eyes were like diamonds, sparkling at me under the intimate light over the table, and I could see a plethora of promise in them. We regarded each other seriously, intently. I grew excited, was ignited even, by what I saw in those eyes.

Affirmation

“Yes,” I said, nodding earnestly. A grin creased away the solemnity in his expression.

“Auf jeden Fall,” he said, his voice gentle, intimate, and deep. And he held my eyes for a moment more, before looking back at you.

“Then it’s settled,” you said.

Well, one thing led to another, later that day. But that was a very sexy business altogether, and deserves a blog write-up all of its own.

And that polite gentleman who took my hand at the door? Smoke and mirrors, innit.