Sex on the Spectrum

Barreling into 2025 with a Celebration of Diversity; and the truth of my present mental health

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Last year on New Year’s Eve, I released a blog post I had written for a friend and his wife. They were going through monumental changes in their relationship, due to her realisation of her suppressed sexual identity. Since I wrote it, I have been wanting to explain what the post means, and now one year on seems like the right time!

I’m going through a difficult patch at the moment, I may be made redundant soon and the insecurity is destroying my equilibrium. I’ll be taking a break from Sundial, until I am in a more stable place.

But hey, it’s a new year. Happy 2025 people, may it bring you health, happiness and may all your kinkiest desires be realised!

Much love, Sundial

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There is a silhouette of a woman in the foreground of this picture in the corner on the left, but she is a tiny part of the image. In the background, you see ocean waves breaking onto the beach she is standing on. The beach is made up of static, curled waves and her feet disappear into one of them. It appears to be nighttime, the picture is mostly grey with subtle blues. She is trapped in the turmoil of the ocean and the night. The ocean meets the sky half way up the image, until that point, the waves are wild and rough, here there is a tiny silhouette of a lighthouse. On the horizon is a huge semi-circle right in the centre of this picture, it is the focus of the image, what the woman is looking at. In the sky, there are tiny specs of birds that seem to be flying towards this. It initially looks like the moon, but on closer inspection, you realise it is the day, clarity. The whole picture is framed by two enormous waves that appear at though they will crash down onto the woman.

Perimenopause hit me like a brick

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This is the most personal blog I’ve made so far. It makes me feel raw and vulnerable to be sharing this, and I wondered if I would be brave enough to do it. But now it’s written and even recorded, I’m actually feeling quite proud of myself and I do feel brave sharing it.

Perimenopause is like one of those elephants in the room. But it needs to be talked about! Half of us are going to go through it, and without fore-knowledge it’s a really scary thing. Trust me 😉

It’s heavy at the start, but please don’t get disheartened. It ends with hope.

<3

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Celebrating One Year of Blogging as Sundial: Heartfelt Thanks; and the relief of recognising Autistic Shutdown

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It’s been a year since I started my blogging adventures as Sundial. I’ve battled my inner technophobe and somehow built a working website, which I dare not tinker with, in case I break it … again 😉 This is a post of celebration, special thank yous and another dip into my autistic mind, this time what a relief it is to me, now I can identify autistic shutdown.

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Navigating Social Anxiety with Autism: People Pleasing and Surviving the Me Too Shitshow

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An autistic based snapshot of my struggles with social interactions, my tendency to people please and why I do it. I share details of a social experiment I conducted after I moved to London, that confirmed my perception of myself at the time of being barely human. I also share a me too moment of how being abused as a child affected me, with regard to my autistic nature, no details.

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