About Sundial - Intimacy, Autism and Perimenopause

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A loving embrace showing a partner's hands resting on a woman's collarbone and chest, representing an open relationship.
A moment of loving connection after a fabulous shoulder massage. We originally used this photo to show our open, trusting dynamic when searching for a third.

I’m a Brit living abroad, navigating life and lust with a truly beautiful man. My blog is an unapologetic exploration of intimacy and kink; it’s the living, breathing story of our sexual evolution. I write exactly what’s in my heart and my head, openly and unashamedly, because that’s exactly how sex should be experienced.

This space is a blend of reality and imagination. Vivid recollections of our actual real-life encounters mixed with delicious, unabashed fantasies. But I also give you the raw truth of who I am outside the bedroom. I write candidly about my late-in-life autism diagnosis and the upheaval of perimenopause, exploring how a highly logical, neurodivergent mind processes pleasure, sensory shifts, and deep intimacy.

Welcome to my unfiltered world.

Navigating Kink, Autism, and Perimenopause

I didn’t truly figure out my own mind until my late forties. When perimenopause hit, it hit like a wrecking ball. The sheer physical and emotional chaos was a massive shock to my fiercely logical brain. But strangely enough, that brutal upheaval was exactly what I needed. It led to my autism diagnosis, to my man and I opening up our relationship and to me writing this blog. 

Being on the spectrum and riding this hormonal rollercoaster otherwise known as perimenopause, are integral part of who I am. They bleed into every piece I write, from the unapologetic sex-blogging to the deeper dives into what intimacy actually looks like for me.

This space is my unfiltered reality: a completely honest look at how an autistic mind craves, processes, and experiences sex, sensation, and connection.

My Philosophy on Consent and Connection

I want to be completely clear about the ground rules: everything you read here is rooted in absolute, enthusiastic consent. Exploring kink and the deeper edges of desire only works when there is an unbreakable foundation of trust. In the real world, every single dynamic and encounter I share is rooted in absolute, enthusiastic consent and strict legal boundaries.

But the mind is a wild place, and fantasy is where we get to safely explore the shadows. Sometimes my writing delves into those dark areas, touching on CNC or even NC. Whenever I take you there in fiction, I will always give you clear warnings upfront.

There is zero shame in exploring the deepest corners of our imagination, just as there is absolutely zero comprimise on my real-world boundaries.